The lie we’ve been sold

Most of us were taught to be grateful for what we have, keep our heads down, and not ask for too much – it’s selfish to want more.
We learnt to measure our goodness by how much we give — our time, our energy, our peace.
But here’s the quiet truth: you can be grateful and still want more.

Wanting more isn’t greed. It’s awareness.
It’s noticing that the version of you who settled for “fine” is ready for “fulfilled.”

My turning point

For years I was the go-to helper — the one who fixed, supported, stayed late, said yes.
I thought that made me valuable.
Instead, it made me exhausted.

The shift came when I realised I didn’t have to earn rest or permission.
I could want balance, creativity, adventure — simply because I’m human.
That moment of permission felt like a huge relief.

Three mindset shifts that changed everything

1️⃣ Rest isn’t a reward.
You don’t have to finish the to-do list before you can pause.
Rest is what allows you to finish the list in the first place.

2️⃣ Boundaries aren’t rejection.
Saying no doesn’t make you difficult — it makes you clear.
Every no protects a deeper yes that matters more.

3️⃣ More isn’t selfish.
Wanting more connection, meaning, or money doesn’t make you ungrateful.
It makes you honest about what fuels you.

How to start giving yourself permission

1. Notice the “shoulds.”
   When you catch yourself saying “I should just be grateful,” ask, “Who told me that?”
2. Name one need you’ve been ignoring.
   Write it down — in black ink, no apology.
3. Take one micro-step.
   Send the message, block the time, say the no.
   Small acts of permission build self-trust faster than any affirmation.

When you stop apologising for your needs

Life feels lighter.
Decisions feel simpler.
You stop living from guilt and start living from clarity.

If this hits home, visit the Clarity to Confidence Reset — it’s designed to help you reconnect to what you actually want.
And if you’re ready to talk it through, book a free 30-minute discovery call with me or visit my coaching options page.
You don’t need to earn the right to want more. You already have it. 🌸