Have you ever wondered what you could achieve if you had the confidence and self-belief to go for it?

The great news is that confidence (or a lack of) isn’t something you’re born and stuck with — it’s something you can build, even if right now you don’t believe it. Confidence is a brain state and therefore can be learned. 

This post is about how confidence coaching can shift the way you see yourself — and your life — even if you doubt you’re capable right now.

How lack of confidence might be showing up

Some of the common confidence struggles I hear in my coaching practice include:

• Overthinking every decision, and struggling to find clarity in the noise.
• Playing small and avoiding opportunities out of fear.
• Feeling like others have it “together” while you don’t.
• Accepting this as a fixed state that can’t be changed.

In daily life, this can feel like:

• Admiring others who seem to have all the confidence in the world and wondering how they do it.
• Coming across a great opportunity, but overthinking and turning it down, to stay small and safe.

What Confidence Coaching Actually Does

Confidence coaching gives you a safe space to unravel the noise in your head, find clarity in what matters, and take steps that build real confidence. 

Through Confidence Coaching, we can identify and work on what’s holding you back, and find small steps that feel right to you, whilst allowing you to move forward and build evidence that you can. Having this safe space and partnering brings opportunities to spot patterns, build resilience and celebrate wins. It’s like having a cheerleader by your side.

I know the power of this firsthand. Not too long ago, I was caught up in worry about delivering training in a new situation, on a topic I wasn’t well versed in. I wanted to avoid it, convinced I’d fall short. But I did it anyway. It landed. And I walked away with evidence of my abilities — instead of letting doubt create another self-fulfilling prophecy.

Here’s an example

Client M came to me for coaching full of excitement — but also fear. She wanted to step into a new venture, yet felt tangled in overwhelm and doubt.

By session 1: we’d untangled her real priorities and mapped professional activities to build momentum.

By session 2: she was reframing automatic thoughts and aligning her values with her new role.

By session 3: she was moving with clarity instead of fear — and buzzing with energy.

She didn’t wait for clarity or confidence to magically appear. They grew because she acted — and kept acting

The Takeaway

Here’s a confidence exercise you can try:

• Write down one thing you avoided because of self-doubt.
• Identify the tiniest step toward it.
• Take that step → prove to yourself you can act, even while the doubt is still there. That’s how confidence is built.

Next time you assume you can’t, why not let a little ‘can do’ into your life?

If you’re ready to explore your own clarity and confidence in a safe space, I’d love to offer you a free 30-minute discovery call. If you’d like to keep learning, you can also join my mailing list or grab my free Spaghetti to Clarity guide.

Trace, Confidence and Clarity Coach at Blooming You.